By Brad Paul
These dating rules for success do not include any instructions that ask you to represent yourself in a way that is not truly you. There are areas where self improvement is recommended, however. The goal of these dating rules is to inspire you to be your best so that you can attract the best partner for you!
Dating Rule #1 -Get Yourself Motivated
Get yourself motivated to find a compatible dating partner who you truly enjoy, a person with whom you can build a productive and fulfilling relationship. Finding a good match will take some time, effort, and perseverance. This will require a strong source of motivation.
Here's how: First, visualize yourself in a magnificent relationship. Picture every glorious detail. Then visualize yourself in a horrible relationship and picture every nasty detail. Create these visualizations by recalling your own relationship experiences and/or those of other couples you've observed.
Motivation is created when we imagine the pleasure we will feel by having something we desire-- like a great relationship. Motivation is intensified when we imagine the pain we will feel if we were to end up with something we hate instead-- like a bad relationship. Use these opposing mental strategies to create a relentless motivation to find the person who's right for you!
Dating Rule #2 -Do a Personal Evaluation
What is the condition of your life? Have you become the person that you know that you can be? Where do you stand emotionally, physically, socially, and financially? Your future dating experiences will reflect the strengths and weaknesses that exist in each of these areas. Get your life in order before you start inviting others to make investments in you!
Do this by conducting a personal evaluation of all the major areas of your life. Determine what areas need improvement, identify the solutions, set goals, and then get to work. Once you are satisfied with the changes you've made and have gotten into the habit of working toward your remaining long-term goals you'll be ready to start dating.
Dating Rule #3 -Get Your Teeth Fixed and Cleaned
The goal of this dating rule is fresh breath. Nothing is more of a turn off than bad breath. Bad breath, which is often caused by a dental or periodontal problem, is usually not noticeable by the person who has it. Cup your hand over your mouth, blow into it, and then smell it. If there's the slightest hint of odor you may have a problem.
If you haven't had your teeth checked and cleaned in the last six months, get it done! If you have a cosmetic problem that affects your confidence, get it fixed if you have the money. If you don't have the money right now, just come to terms with it by adding it to your list of long-term goals. At the very least get your teeth and gums healthy so that your breath will be fresh and ready for romance!
Dating Rule #4 -Identify Your Target
Create a detailed description of the person you want. With a clear vision of the person you want, you will attract and be able recognize them when they enter your life. Without it, most of your efforts will be a waste of time.
Here's how: Make two (2) lists of all the attributes, characteristics, and qualities that you MUST HAVE and CANNOT HAVE in a partner. Refine the lists by clarifying the items of greater importance and eliminating the items of lesser importance. Then transfer the lists to a fresh piece of paper and place it in a location where you'll be encouraged to review it often.
Once you have the image of your ideal partner firmly anchored in your mind, you will attract and be drawn towards those individuals who meet your unique set of needs and repelled away from those who do not.
Dating Rule #5 -Determine the Best Places to Find Them
Determine the best places for you to find your ideal partner. What are your greatest passions? Are there organizations or events that you can attend where others who share your passion are likely gather? Finding someone to share what you love doing most is an ideal foundation for building a great relationship. Make a list of all the possibilities. Then go check them out. Join the ones that feel right and get involved without focusing on finding someone to date. That part will happen naturally.
You can come up with many dating sources within your present world as well. Do some brainstorming to identify all the possible places and activites where you have seen or might find a potential partner.
Online dating is an excellent resource for finding an ideal partner. The key is to find a reputable service with extensive matching criteria. You will find that the identifying process described in rule #4 will help you to recognize an outstanding service and an outstanding match.
Dating Rule #6 -Learn about Dating Techniques and Rituals
Learning about dating techniques and rituals will not only improve your dating success but also your amount of enjoyment. I am not talking about just learning how to open doors and order wine. I am talking about learning the techniques that can enhance compatibility judgment, relationship development, and romance. The beginner to the dating veteran can benefit from a review of this information.
This topic is too broad to summarize into a couple of paragraphs that would do you much good. The important point here is that learning this information can greatly improve your dating experiences. Find a good book or article about dating that covers the areas mentioned above.
Dating Rule #7 -Get Your Wardrobe Ready
This issue is usually more of a challenge for men then women, but there are a number of women that I've encountered that could benefit from this advice as well. Looking your best is the icing on the cake. Like you, the true quality of a cake is what's on the inside. But with an uninviting outward appearance there's less of a chance someone will be inspired to find out what's inside.
Do you have some clothes that are appropriate for dating? You can't go out to a nightclub in a chef's uniform, hospital scrubs, or a business suit. Either fish out a couple of outfits from your closet, wash, and iron them or invest in a few new ones. Try to dress fashionably and up-to-date. This may require that you stretch yourself a bit. Make your final choice on what you wear, however, based on what makes you feel the most confident. If you have accessories or a look that reflects your own unique style, go for it!
If you want some ideas on what clothes to buy, go to your local bookstore or library and look through some magazines. The goal here is not to spend a lot of money to impress the person you're dating. The goal is to put together some outfits that make you look and feel your best.
Dating Rule #8 -Learn How to Handle Rejection
Rejection is a part of the dating experience that everyone hates. The fear of being rejected blocks us from reaching out to potential partners. If we change our perceptions about it, we can eliminate our fears.
We've been programmed to feel bad when we are rejected when 99% of the time it has nothing whatsoever to do with us. Mathematically, the chances of you coming into contact with someone, where favorable circumstances and mutual attraction exists, is probably at least 100 to 1 (one) or greater. In most situations, you do not have pre-existing knowledge of the person or their current relationship status, mood, likes, dislikes, etc.
Once you can accept the fact that it's just a numbers game you can let go of the fear. Then you can move forward with more confidence knowing that the more you try, and the more rejections you accumulate, the closer you will be to reaching your target!
Dating Rule #9 -Enjoy the Journey
Don't get so catch up in trying to find the perfect partner that you don't enjoy the journey. Have fun! Learn! Grow!
When you find yourself out on a date with someone who isn't right for you, just shift your attention to what you can learn from them and enjoy the conversation. If it's really an uncomfortable situation, end the date as quickly as possible and go enjoy the rest of your day. Don't waste any time doing a postmortem, just say to yourself, "Next!"
When you're alone use the time to learn about yourself and how to enjoy your single life whether you're dating someone or not. This means having the ability to go out to dinner alone on a Saturday night and truly enjoy it. Test yourself. Try it!
When a person is at peace being alone then their decision to be in relationship is a matter of free choice and not an emotional necessity. When there is freedom to decide when and if a person wants to be in a relationship, a better choice in a partner can be made.
Dating Rule #10 -Ensure Lifelong Intimacy
Ensure lifelong intimacy by being tested and protected. No matter how truthful, safe, and healthy your partner/friend seems, make certain that an adequate birth control method is being used, and that you both get tested for sexually transmitted diseases (STD) BEFORE your first sexual encounter. If you don't have medical insurance to cover these expenses, most local health departments offer birth control counseling and STD testing for free or at a nominal fee. This would be appropriate for couples of any age. You may feel uncomfortable with the thought of discussing these subjects with your partner/friend, but it's your life and these issues must be resolved. One bad choice in this area can instantly ruin your life forever!
Dating Rules Epilogue
Most of us approach dating in a lackadaisical manner as if no special knowledge or skills are required to be successful. The truth is dating is like everything else in life. You get what you put into it. These dating rules are only a blueprint for success. The rest is up to you!
If you're looking to find a life-partner, than this endeavor is one of the most important your life! If you're new to dating or not looking for a serious relationship, than dating can either enhance or complicate your life.
You can learn through trial and error, but the price is usually a lot of pain when it comes to dating and relationships. Or you can master the necessary skills and reap the benefits of superior dating experiences and relationships. These dating rules provide a solid starting point.
Brad Paul
Solotopia.com
Copyright © Brad Paul
These rules are based on extensive research on this topic. In most cases, the short description of each dating rule is sufficient for successful implementation of the advice. If you want more information on these dating rules there are many related articles that are referenced with links in the original article on the Solotopia website. To go there, click: http://www.solotopia.com/dating-rules.html
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Brad Paul is the founder of Solotopia.com, which provides FREE resources for being single successfully whether a person chooses to remain unattached, just date, or find a perfect partner.
Brad began learning about the needs of singles as he built and led a unique, highly successful non-profit singles organization. He refined his knowledge about singles as he researched and wrote books on finding a perfect partner and couple's communication. Before changing careers, he headed a marketing group responsible for generating $400 million dollars in annual sales.
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Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Monday, May 24, 2010
Pre Marriage Questions and Relationships Issues
By Bryan Walters
With the divorce rate so high and people defying past conventions of staying together through bad patches, many people are finding out that love doesn't overcome all problems.
Little secrets between couples are no problem, but for the big issues like attitude to money, children, careers, religion, couples need to know what they're getting into to avoid continual arguments and possibly the breakdown of their relationship.
These things are better sorted out before a long term commitment, but couples in an established relationship can become closer the more they know and understand about each other.
Here are 5 tips to help get a long-term relationship off to a great start:
1. Take your time to get to know each other - When you consider the different events and circumstances that happen in a year, it's worth delaying any decisions on entering a long term relationship for at least a year.
He needs the latest sports gear every spring / she needs the latest fashions - do you think that's a good use of your budget - can you live with that?
She wants to vacation in the Caribbean, perfecting her tan / he wants to go fishing in mountain streams and white-water rafting - how are you going to work that one out?
There's nothing wrong with having different attitudes and interests, it's how to work out and live with your differences that determines how successful your relationship is going to be.
Don't gamble by committing yourselves to a long-term relationship too soon!
2. Don't stop dating - Do you remember when you first met how you always found or made time to be together and go on dates?
Don't let your relationship become stale because you take each other for granted - keep doing new and special things together and find time for those unexpected gifts or surprises.
When did you last do simple things like take a stroll together in the park or sit on the beach watching the sun go down? Going on a date, you'll put more effort into your appearance, have more time to talk to each other, and feel closer.
3. Don't forget 'I love you' - What? you say, they already know that!
Sure they do, just as you know they love you, but you still like to hear it, don't you?, and you like that intimate touch that says you both share an intimacy that no one else has with you.
When you've been together for some time, it's easy to forget the things you found attractive in the first place and let fault finding or familiarity take over - don't forget to praise your partner's good points and encourage and support them in what they do.
4. Know your partner - Not understanding your partner is not the big problem. What you need to do for a successful relationship is to KNOW your partner and how they think and react about things - AND - to accept that's the way they are.
You don't have to have the same likes and dislikes, or the same values or opinions to have a successful relationship, but you do have to accept your partner's point of view being as valid as your own.
5. Ask the big questions - If couples simply spent some time asking each other the questions that really matter, and discussing the answers without passing judgment, they'd greatly increase their chances of staying together.
Does your partner want kids; do they have a history of spending their way into debt; are they religious; do you both want careers? To give your relationship the best chance of lasting, these are the sorts of issues you need to discuss and come to terms with BEFORE entering into a long-term commitment.
Don't think that you'll be able to change your partner's behavior after you've made the commitment because it won't happen! If you don't take the time to discuss finances, religion, sex, housing, and your future in some detail, you're probably going to spend the rest of your life together arguing.
This article is based on the author's own experiences, and is written for information only in the hope that it will help you. You must decide for yourself, and take responsibility for, anything you do as a result of reading this article.
Have you got questions you'd like to ask your partner but don't know how to ask?
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With the divorce rate so high and people defying past conventions of staying together through bad patches, many people are finding out that love doesn't overcome all problems.
Little secrets between couples are no problem, but for the big issues like attitude to money, children, careers, religion, couples need to know what they're getting into to avoid continual arguments and possibly the breakdown of their relationship.
These things are better sorted out before a long term commitment, but couples in an established relationship can become closer the more they know and understand about each other.
Here are 5 tips to help get a long-term relationship off to a great start:
1. Take your time to get to know each other - When you consider the different events and circumstances that happen in a year, it's worth delaying any decisions on entering a long term relationship for at least a year.
He needs the latest sports gear every spring / she needs the latest fashions - do you think that's a good use of your budget - can you live with that?
She wants to vacation in the Caribbean, perfecting her tan / he wants to go fishing in mountain streams and white-water rafting - how are you going to work that one out?
There's nothing wrong with having different attitudes and interests, it's how to work out and live with your differences that determines how successful your relationship is going to be.
Don't gamble by committing yourselves to a long-term relationship too soon!
2. Don't stop dating - Do you remember when you first met how you always found or made time to be together and go on dates?
Don't let your relationship become stale because you take each other for granted - keep doing new and special things together and find time for those unexpected gifts or surprises.
When did you last do simple things like take a stroll together in the park or sit on the beach watching the sun go down? Going on a date, you'll put more effort into your appearance, have more time to talk to each other, and feel closer.
3. Don't forget 'I love you' - What? you say, they already know that!
Sure they do, just as you know they love you, but you still like to hear it, don't you?, and you like that intimate touch that says you both share an intimacy that no one else has with you.
When you've been together for some time, it's easy to forget the things you found attractive in the first place and let fault finding or familiarity take over - don't forget to praise your partner's good points and encourage and support them in what they do.
4. Know your partner - Not understanding your partner is not the big problem. What you need to do for a successful relationship is to KNOW your partner and how they think and react about things - AND - to accept that's the way they are.
You don't have to have the same likes and dislikes, or the same values or opinions to have a successful relationship, but you do have to accept your partner's point of view being as valid as your own.
5. Ask the big questions - If couples simply spent some time asking each other the questions that really matter, and discussing the answers without passing judgment, they'd greatly increase their chances of staying together.
Does your partner want kids; do they have a history of spending their way into debt; are they religious; do you both want careers? To give your relationship the best chance of lasting, these are the sorts of issues you need to discuss and come to terms with BEFORE entering into a long-term commitment.
Don't think that you'll be able to change your partner's behavior after you've made the commitment because it won't happen! If you don't take the time to discuss finances, religion, sex, housing, and your future in some detail, you're probably going to spend the rest of your life together arguing.
This article is based on the author's own experiences, and is written for information only in the hope that it will help you. You must decide for yourself, and take responsibility for, anything you do as a result of reading this article.
Have you got questions you'd like to ask your partner but don't know how to ask?
Would [http://RelationshipEbooks.com/1000-questions-for-couples.html]1000 pre-written questions help?
More tips and ideas on other relationship issues at [http://RelationshipEbooks.com]RelationshipEbooks.com
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Sunday, May 23, 2010
Dating Tips and Relationship Advice in Dating Someone New
By Anthony Causey
When you finally find someone your interested in,you should take the time to find out some things about them. Sometimes you may find that the one you have chosen to date, may be the perfect enemy that your parents warned you about. You may have thought that it could never happen to you to meet the wrong person,but it does happen often. When you decide to check them out,there are some dating tips and relationship advice you should look at when dating someone new.
One thing is to find out as much as you can about their past. Some people do change when they get older but it is not likely,and very seldom happens. You should find out if they are faithful and trust worthy people; and doing this may bring you to find and question, some of their past relationships. This is a great start to easing your mind and checking them out. Some seems to think by taking this step of relationship advice might be a little overboard, but it is best to learn before you commit to this person.
Online dating tips works well when searching for a persons background, and tools are available to perform any type of search your looking for. Knowing peoples background this day and time is only for your own protection. Do not feel that you are doing them wrong by taking this step. This may be the most important decision you will ever make.
Divorce is at a ratio higher than it has ever been in history,and if only 50% of those people would have took the time to research their dating partner more, this percentage would go down tremendously. This in the long run would save money for most by not having to spend on legal fees. This being said,this relationship advice could save a bundle for most people.
Sometimes people do live their lives in certain patterns. If your dating someone that has been married in the past,find out what broke them up in the first place. If cheating was the mistake,and they were the cheater,then you can very well expect it to happen again. These patterns often run in a relationship no matter who they are with.
Not everyone who does cheat will be at fault,sometimes they are in the wrong place in another persons life at the wrong time. Not taking up for the cheating spouse,but it does happen. This is the time to check up on them to see if it has happened more than once. These dating tips and relationship advice is critical to your future,so be aware of these things and search them out before you commit to someone new.
To get the best relationship advice you can get expert tips at http://magicofmakingup-tips.com/
Article Source: [http://EzineArticles.com
When you finally find someone your interested in,you should take the time to find out some things about them. Sometimes you may find that the one you have chosen to date, may be the perfect enemy that your parents warned you about. You may have thought that it could never happen to you to meet the wrong person,but it does happen often. When you decide to check them out,there are some dating tips and relationship advice you should look at when dating someone new.
One thing is to find out as much as you can about their past. Some people do change when they get older but it is not likely,and very seldom happens. You should find out if they are faithful and trust worthy people; and doing this may bring you to find and question, some of their past relationships. This is a great start to easing your mind and checking them out. Some seems to think by taking this step of relationship advice might be a little overboard, but it is best to learn before you commit to this person.
Online dating tips works well when searching for a persons background, and tools are available to perform any type of search your looking for. Knowing peoples background this day and time is only for your own protection. Do not feel that you are doing them wrong by taking this step. This may be the most important decision you will ever make.
Divorce is at a ratio higher than it has ever been in history,and if only 50% of those people would have took the time to research their dating partner more, this percentage would go down tremendously. This in the long run would save money for most by not having to spend on legal fees. This being said,this relationship advice could save a bundle for most people.
Sometimes people do live their lives in certain patterns. If your dating someone that has been married in the past,find out what broke them up in the first place. If cheating was the mistake,and they were the cheater,then you can very well expect it to happen again. These patterns often run in a relationship no matter who they are with.
Not everyone who does cheat will be at fault,sometimes they are in the wrong place in another persons life at the wrong time. Not taking up for the cheating spouse,but it does happen. This is the time to check up on them to see if it has happened more than once. These dating tips and relationship advice is critical to your future,so be aware of these things and search them out before you commit to someone new.
To get the best relationship advice you can get expert tips at http://magicofmakingup-tips.com/
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Friday, May 21, 2010
Golden Rules For A Happy And Successful Marriage And Relationship Maintenance
By Siddharth Pandey
Marriage is an interpersonal relationship with governmental, social, or religious recognition, usually intimate and sexual, and often created as a contract, or through civil process. Civil marriage is the legal concept of marriage.
The most common form of marriage unites a man and a woman as husband and wife. Other forms of marriage also exist; for example, polygamy, in which a person takes more than one spouse (marriage partner), is common in many societies.Beginning in 2001, civil marriage in some places has been expanded to include same-sex marriage.
The reasons people marry vary, but usually include one or more of the following: legal, social and economic stability; the formation of a family unit; procreation and the education and nurturing of children; legitimizing sexual relations; public declaration of love.
A marriage is often declared by a wedding ceremony,which may be performed by a religious officiator, through a similar government-sanctioned secular officiator, or (in weddings that have no church or state affiliation) by a trusted friend of the wedding participants. The act of marriage usually creates obligations between the individuals involved, and in many societies, their extended families.
Find a partner
In order to get married, it is necessary to find a suitable partner. A partner may be found by the person wishing to be married via a process of courtship. Alternately, two marriage-able people may be matched by a third party, typically with the match finalized only if both candidates approve the union. This is known as an arranged marriage.
The choice between courtship and arranged marriage is made by the person seeking marriage or by his or her parents. In some cases, the parents will be ready to force an arranged marriage because of cultural tradition (e.g., in the Middle East) or for some other special reason (e.g., dowry). It is worth noting, however, that in many cases the person seeking marriage is comfortable with having his or her marriage arranged and, even disregarding parental preference, would freely choose an arranged marriage. Actual forced marriage is common in only a few communities and often attracts harsh criticism even from people who are generally in favor of arranged marriage.
Given a choice, the preference for the method of courtship or arranged marriage is determined by whether a person believes that marriage should be based on emotion or logic. At one end of the scale is a person who believes that there is only one unique "soul mate" suitable for them. A partner is typically chosen based on the depth of emotional connection experienced with their partner during the courtship phase of the relationship. At the other end of the scale is a person who believes that there are many suitable partners, and typically views marriage chiefly as a means to start a family. The deep emotional bond between partners characteristic of good marriages is more likely to be viewed as something which can be developed through nurture and cultivation with any suitable partner. Most people fall somewhere between these two extremes.
Rights and obligations
Marriage sometimes establishes the legal father of a woman's child; establishes the legal mother of a man's child; gives the husband or his family control over the wife's sexual services, labor, and/or property; gives the wife or her family control over the husband's sexual services, labor, and/or property; establishes a joint fund of property for the benefit of children; or establishes a relationship between the families of the husband and wife. No society ascribes all of these rights to marriage, and none are universal (see Edmund Leach's article in "Marriage, Family, and Residence," edited by Paul Bohannan and John Middleton).
Marriage is not a prerequisite for having children. In the U.S., the National Center for Health Statistics reported that in 1992, 30.1 percent of births were to unmarried women. Some married couples remain childless by choice or due to infertility, age, or other factors preventing reproduction. In some cultures, marriage imposes upon women the obligation to bear children. In northern Ghana, for example, payment of bridewealth signifies a woman's requirement to bear children, and women using birth control face substantial threats of physical abuse and reprisals.
Most of the world's major religions tell couples they should marry before having sexual intercourse.They teach that unmarried people should not have sex, which they refer to as fornication. Fornication is sometimes socially discouraged or even criminalized. Sex with a married person other than one's spouse, called adultery, is universally condemned by all major world religions, and has often been criminalized. It is also against the governing law of the U.S. military. Nevertheless, three recent studies in the U.S. using nationally representative samples have found that about 10-15% of women and 20-25% of men engage in extramarital sex.
Relationship Maintenance
Relationship maintenance comprises behaviors partners perform in order to maintain satisfaction and extend the duration of a relationship.
The impact of open marriage on relationships varies across couples, yielding positive, neutral, and negative outcomes. Some couples report high levels of marital satisfaction and have long-lasting open marriages. Other couples drop out of the open marriage lifestyle and return to sexual monogamy. Still other couples experience serious problems and report that open marriage contributed to their divorces. Scientists do not yet understand why some couples respond positively to open marriage while other couples respond negatively.
Scientists cannot yet explain why some couples respond positively to open marriage while other couples respond negatively. Nor can they predict which couples will respond positively or negatively. Consequently, all couples involved in open marriages may want to pay attention to their relationship maintenance behaviors.
The topic of relationship maintenance behaviors is far too broad to cover in a single article. The strategies for maintaining relationships described below are simply a few examples. Readers should be aware there are many strategies for maintaining healthy and happy relationships other than the ones mentioned here.
Six ground rules for managing conflict and maintaining good marital relationships:
o When conflict is escalating, we will call a Time Out or Stop Action and either
(a) try it again, using the Speaker-Listener technique or
(b) agree to talk about the issue later, at a specified time, using the Speaker-Listener technique.
o When we're having trouble communicating, we will use the Speaker-Listener technique.
o When we're using the Speaker-Listener technique, we will completely separate problem discussion from problem solution (i.e., we will discuss the nature of the problem before jumping too quickly to finding solutions).
o We can bring up issues at any time, but a partner can say: "This is not a good time." If a partner doesn't want to talk at that time, he or she takes responsibility for setting up a time to talk in the near future.
o We will have weekly "couple's meetings."
o We will make time for the great things: fun, friendship, and sensuality. We will agree to protect these times from conflict and the need to deal with issues.
The Speaker-Listener technique is a strategy for making communication more emotionally safe. It consists of three sets of rules. Rules that apply to both the Speaker and the Listener are:
o The speaker has the floor.
o Share the floor (i.e., take turns being Speaker).
o No problem solving.
The next set of rules apply to the Speaker:
o Speak for yourself.
o Don't go on and on.
o Stop and let the listener paraphrase.
The final set of rules apply to the Listener:
o Paraphrase what you hear.
o Focus on the speaker's message.
o Don't rebut the speaker.
Using the Speaker-Listener technique in the context of the six ground rules can help couples maintain happier and longer-lasting relationships. Further readres can find more golden rules for a happy and successful marriage at rel=nofollow http://www.vivahkalash.com a matrimonial website which provides a healthy platform to it's subscribers to find out the best possible match. The vivahkalash is a fastest growing matrimonial community in India and other countries like US, UAE, UK, Canada and Pakistan with subscribers base of more than 1 million.
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Marriage is an interpersonal relationship with governmental, social, or religious recognition, usually intimate and sexual, and often created as a contract, or through civil process. Civil marriage is the legal concept of marriage.
The most common form of marriage unites a man and a woman as husband and wife. Other forms of marriage also exist; for example, polygamy, in which a person takes more than one spouse (marriage partner), is common in many societies.Beginning in 2001, civil marriage in some places has been expanded to include same-sex marriage.
The reasons people marry vary, but usually include one or more of the following: legal, social and economic stability; the formation of a family unit; procreation and the education and nurturing of children; legitimizing sexual relations; public declaration of love.
A marriage is often declared by a wedding ceremony,which may be performed by a religious officiator, through a similar government-sanctioned secular officiator, or (in weddings that have no church or state affiliation) by a trusted friend of the wedding participants. The act of marriage usually creates obligations between the individuals involved, and in many societies, their extended families.
Find a partner
In order to get married, it is necessary to find a suitable partner. A partner may be found by the person wishing to be married via a process of courtship. Alternately, two marriage-able people may be matched by a third party, typically with the match finalized only if both candidates approve the union. This is known as an arranged marriage.
The choice between courtship and arranged marriage is made by the person seeking marriage or by his or her parents. In some cases, the parents will be ready to force an arranged marriage because of cultural tradition (e.g., in the Middle East) or for some other special reason (e.g., dowry). It is worth noting, however, that in many cases the person seeking marriage is comfortable with having his or her marriage arranged and, even disregarding parental preference, would freely choose an arranged marriage. Actual forced marriage is common in only a few communities and often attracts harsh criticism even from people who are generally in favor of arranged marriage.
Given a choice, the preference for the method of courtship or arranged marriage is determined by whether a person believes that marriage should be based on emotion or logic. At one end of the scale is a person who believes that there is only one unique "soul mate" suitable for them. A partner is typically chosen based on the depth of emotional connection experienced with their partner during the courtship phase of the relationship. At the other end of the scale is a person who believes that there are many suitable partners, and typically views marriage chiefly as a means to start a family. The deep emotional bond between partners characteristic of good marriages is more likely to be viewed as something which can be developed through nurture and cultivation with any suitable partner. Most people fall somewhere between these two extremes.
Rights and obligations
Marriage sometimes establishes the legal father of a woman's child; establishes the legal mother of a man's child; gives the husband or his family control over the wife's sexual services, labor, and/or property; gives the wife or her family control over the husband's sexual services, labor, and/or property; establishes a joint fund of property for the benefit of children; or establishes a relationship between the families of the husband and wife. No society ascribes all of these rights to marriage, and none are universal (see Edmund Leach's article in "Marriage, Family, and Residence," edited by Paul Bohannan and John Middleton).
Marriage is not a prerequisite for having children. In the U.S., the National Center for Health Statistics reported that in 1992, 30.1 percent of births were to unmarried women. Some married couples remain childless by choice or due to infertility, age, or other factors preventing reproduction. In some cultures, marriage imposes upon women the obligation to bear children. In northern Ghana, for example, payment of bridewealth signifies a woman's requirement to bear children, and women using birth control face substantial threats of physical abuse and reprisals.
Most of the world's major religions tell couples they should marry before having sexual intercourse.They teach that unmarried people should not have sex, which they refer to as fornication. Fornication is sometimes socially discouraged or even criminalized. Sex with a married person other than one's spouse, called adultery, is universally condemned by all major world religions, and has often been criminalized. It is also against the governing law of the U.S. military. Nevertheless, three recent studies in the U.S. using nationally representative samples have found that about 10-15% of women and 20-25% of men engage in extramarital sex.
Relationship Maintenance
Relationship maintenance comprises behaviors partners perform in order to maintain satisfaction and extend the duration of a relationship.
The impact of open marriage on relationships varies across couples, yielding positive, neutral, and negative outcomes. Some couples report high levels of marital satisfaction and have long-lasting open marriages. Other couples drop out of the open marriage lifestyle and return to sexual monogamy. Still other couples experience serious problems and report that open marriage contributed to their divorces. Scientists do not yet understand why some couples respond positively to open marriage while other couples respond negatively.
Scientists cannot yet explain why some couples respond positively to open marriage while other couples respond negatively. Nor can they predict which couples will respond positively or negatively. Consequently, all couples involved in open marriages may want to pay attention to their relationship maintenance behaviors.
The topic of relationship maintenance behaviors is far too broad to cover in a single article. The strategies for maintaining relationships described below are simply a few examples. Readers should be aware there are many strategies for maintaining healthy and happy relationships other than the ones mentioned here.
Six ground rules for managing conflict and maintaining good marital relationships:
o When conflict is escalating, we will call a Time Out or Stop Action and either
(a) try it again, using the Speaker-Listener technique or
(b) agree to talk about the issue later, at a specified time, using the Speaker-Listener technique.
o When we're having trouble communicating, we will use the Speaker-Listener technique.
o When we're using the Speaker-Listener technique, we will completely separate problem discussion from problem solution (i.e., we will discuss the nature of the problem before jumping too quickly to finding solutions).
o We can bring up issues at any time, but a partner can say: "This is not a good time." If a partner doesn't want to talk at that time, he or she takes responsibility for setting up a time to talk in the near future.
o We will have weekly "couple's meetings."
o We will make time for the great things: fun, friendship, and sensuality. We will agree to protect these times from conflict and the need to deal with issues.
The Speaker-Listener technique is a strategy for making communication more emotionally safe. It consists of three sets of rules. Rules that apply to both the Speaker and the Listener are:
o The speaker has the floor.
o Share the floor (i.e., take turns being Speaker).
o No problem solving.
The next set of rules apply to the Speaker:
o Speak for yourself.
o Don't go on and on.
o Stop and let the listener paraphrase.
The final set of rules apply to the Listener:
o Paraphrase what you hear.
o Focus on the speaker's message.
o Don't rebut the speaker.
Using the Speaker-Listener technique in the context of the six ground rules can help couples maintain happier and longer-lasting relationships. Further readres can find more golden rules for a happy and successful marriage at rel=nofollow http://www.vivahkalash.com a matrimonial website which provides a healthy platform to it's subscribers to find out the best possible match. The vivahkalash is a fastest growing matrimonial community in India and other countries like US, UAE, UK, Canada and Pakistan with subscribers base of more than 1 million.
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Saving Marriages and Relationships
By Rosanna Maywell
With almost a 50% divorce rate, relationships and more specifically marriages, are tough. I have been married for twenty wonderful years with a few rough spots, but we always overcame them and felt closer as a couple because of them. People often ask me, "How do I make my marriage work?" Well I tell them that they just answered their own question. Marriage takes a little work. Couples that are married or couples that are dating need to work on a few things to make the relationship last.
1. Communication
2. Consideration
3. Compromise
4. Commitment
The four "C's" of any health relationship.
You must communicate with your lover. To keep things from each other is the fall of most marriages and relationships. If one of the partners is holding back and not expressing their feelings that is going to turn into an issue. Say for instance a wife can not stand the way her husband stays at work late into the night all the time. She also works, but she make it a priority to be home when he is to share each others company. Now he may think he is doing right by her by trying to get ahead and create a good life for the two of them. She may feel the exact opposite. The difference comes where he thinks money is going to make her happy. When in fact she believes that a healthy marriage is based on quality time spent together. She does not want the extra $5,000 dollars a year she would rather just have him around. She needs to let him know this. He may not totally agree but that brings us to the next "C".
Consideration is what happens after a concern is communicated. In our example an issue has come up regarding a husband at work too much. The wife has expressed she feels he's working too much, and would like him to pay more attention to her. Regardless of how he feels he needs to be able to listen, absorb, think, then react. By doing this he is going to be a considerate husband. Usually relationship consideration happens by meeting half way.
The third "C" is compromise. Compromise in a relationship happens all the time. From choices on where to eat dinner, to what house to buy. Usually people don't have to compromise unless they have to because of a volatile situation. The key is to stop these situations before they begin. If both partners in a couple can try and make every situation a "win win" the marriage feels more equal and everyone is happy. For our married couple concerned about the husbands time spent at work a compromise is needed. They need simply to compromise on the number of hours he spends at work. He still needs to work a little extra because that makes him feel good about himself, but the husband also needs to respect his wife's wishes and come home early a couple days a week. Everybody wins!
The fourth and most important "C" is commitment. To make all of this work both husband and wife in the marriage need to be committed to make it work. This means everyday! Do a little something for each other to let them know that they are the reason for doing everything, and they would not trade that for anything in the world. I hope that all your relationships and marriages are good happy unions of souls. Above all else it is imperative to remember that no couple is perfect, and whenever the relationship has problems, and it is inevitable the all relationships will use the four "C's" and see your way to happiness.
That's just the tip of the iceberg. To get some really great information on a lot of areas involving relationships check out this blog I found at http://www.what-is-marriage-about.blogspot.com
Article Source: [http://EzineArticles.com
With almost a 50% divorce rate, relationships and more specifically marriages, are tough. I have been married for twenty wonderful years with a few rough spots, but we always overcame them and felt closer as a couple because of them. People often ask me, "How do I make my marriage work?" Well I tell them that they just answered their own question. Marriage takes a little work. Couples that are married or couples that are dating need to work on a few things to make the relationship last.
1. Communication
2. Consideration
3. Compromise
4. Commitment
The four "C's" of any health relationship.
You must communicate with your lover. To keep things from each other is the fall of most marriages and relationships. If one of the partners is holding back and not expressing their feelings that is going to turn into an issue. Say for instance a wife can not stand the way her husband stays at work late into the night all the time. She also works, but she make it a priority to be home when he is to share each others company. Now he may think he is doing right by her by trying to get ahead and create a good life for the two of them. She may feel the exact opposite. The difference comes where he thinks money is going to make her happy. When in fact she believes that a healthy marriage is based on quality time spent together. She does not want the extra $5,000 dollars a year she would rather just have him around. She needs to let him know this. He may not totally agree but that brings us to the next "C".
Consideration is what happens after a concern is communicated. In our example an issue has come up regarding a husband at work too much. The wife has expressed she feels he's working too much, and would like him to pay more attention to her. Regardless of how he feels he needs to be able to listen, absorb, think, then react. By doing this he is going to be a considerate husband. Usually relationship consideration happens by meeting half way.
The third "C" is compromise. Compromise in a relationship happens all the time. From choices on where to eat dinner, to what house to buy. Usually people don't have to compromise unless they have to because of a volatile situation. The key is to stop these situations before they begin. If both partners in a couple can try and make every situation a "win win" the marriage feels more equal and everyone is happy. For our married couple concerned about the husbands time spent at work a compromise is needed. They need simply to compromise on the number of hours he spends at work. He still needs to work a little extra because that makes him feel good about himself, but the husband also needs to respect his wife's wishes and come home early a couple days a week. Everybody wins!
The fourth and most important "C" is commitment. To make all of this work both husband and wife in the marriage need to be committed to make it work. This means everyday! Do a little something for each other to let them know that they are the reason for doing everything, and they would not trade that for anything in the world. I hope that all your relationships and marriages are good happy unions of souls. Above all else it is imperative to remember that no couple is perfect, and whenever the relationship has problems, and it is inevitable the all relationships will use the four "C's" and see your way to happiness.
That's just the tip of the iceberg. To get some really great information on a lot of areas involving relationships check out this blog I found at http://www.what-is-marriage-about.blogspot.com
Article Source: [http://EzineArticles.com
Thursday, May 20, 2010
Understanding Marriage - Biblical Truth and Good Advice About Relationship and Structure in Marriage
By Chris Field
Christian Marriage is the model from which western marriage is explained. The unique "one-flesh" relationship and family structure described by Jesus Christ and the early church writers create the godly marriage, where both husband and wife are able to resist the seduction of worldly ideas and destructive temptations.
As western culture forgets its roots, the wonder of marriage is lost. Cheap and shallow connections, involving exploitation, insecurity, betrayal and pain then become the norm. In order to reverse that, and rediscover godly marriage that works, we need to have marriage explained clearly, in terms of the Christian marriage, so the most effective relationships can be established. This will not just benefit the couple, but also their children and the society in which they live.
The following explanations about marriage and relationship come out of the various books I have written on subject, including Family Horizons, Marriage Horizons and Mending Marriages.
WHAT IS MARRIAGE?
In the secular community marriage is based on many different ideas, such as: Assigned Duties; Mutual Obligation; the 50:50 Partnership; It's a Man's World; the Idolised Woman; Something is Better than Nothing; Let's See if it Works; the Obligatory Duty and the Contract.
Christians can be confident about marriage and not be distracted by the ideas promoted in the popular culture, movies, press, music and television. The Bible reveals what true marriage is, from its invention in the Garden of Eden to its ultimate application in the marriage of Christ and the Church, at the end of the world.
Marriage has two main components: Relationship and Structure. Marriage is a relationship, but it is one that must be built on a God-ordained pattern, which gives it structure and enduring stability.
RELATIONSHIP IN TWO PARTS
Marriage is an interpersonal relationship between a man and a woman making a life-long commitment to each other. The quality of interpersonal relationship obviously impacts the way the couple relate, work together, solve problems and enjoy life together. But Marriage is also an "official" relationship, apart from the interpersonal fellowship of the couple.
When a couple join together in marriage God grants them a special "one-ness" that the Bible calls "one flesh". Jesus called this being "joined together" by God. Once a couple is given official "one flesh" status by God they can enjoy legitimate sexual intimacy. Such activity without the "one flesh" bond is immoral, as either fornication or adultery. Immoral behaviour damages those who engage in it. So the "official" relationship is incredibly important. Marital intimacy before marriage is immoral, since the couple do not yet have the official "one flesh" bond which God gives them when they become "man and wife".
God's "one flesh" bond is not created by the couple and cannot be dissolved by them. God establishes it and only He can dissolve it. Jesus taught; do not separate those "God has joined together". This is the divine "glue" which God uses to make two people into one unique physical entity.
A happy couple without the official "one flesh" relationship are not married. An unhappy couple with the official "one flesh" relationship are still married, even if they separate. So the most important relationship is not the sentimental secular one, but the official bond God establishes. If people understood its significance they would take marriage much more seriously than many do today.
CORRECT STRUCTURAL DESIGN
God prescribed the Structure for marriage, involving both Responsibility and Support. The husband is the one who must take responsibility for the marriage, wife and family. He is accountable to God. The wife is the one who must support the husband's leadership.
The man was designed to live under God's authority and fulfil God's will for his life. The wife was designed to empower the man and assist him to do that. The man, then, must love his wife and bless her for her commitment. The wife, then, must submit to the husband and energise his fulfilment of God's purposes.
These ideas seem old-fashioned in today's secularised culture. Yet, possibly to the surprise of today's generation, they have worked wonderfully well for millennia. The modern, progressive ideas, which abandon God's prescribed structure of responsibility and support, are far less satisfying, stable or effective as those which follow God's design.
SOME POINTERS TO MAKING MARRIAGE SUCCESSFUL
In preparing for marriage, or in making a marriage stronger, there are a number of things that will make an important contribution. If people do not have these qualities they will find it harder to make their marriage work. These issues are discussed in more detail in MARRIAGE HORIZONS.
Personal Wholeness - freedom from moral compromise and damage. Damaged people are unable to function as they should, especially in their marriage. Commitment - faithful in the face of difficulty. Weak people who cannot make and stand by faithful commitments will be a black hole in the marriage. Willingness to Forgive and Show Grace - not holding resentment or bad attitudes. It is essential that people learn how to forgive others, especially in the face to face, daily challenges or marriage. High Moral Standards - rejecting temptation. People with loose morals will betray their marriage and hurt their spouse, their family and themselves. Balanced Thinking - clear understanding of truth. Distorted ideas about reality, ourself or others cause people to respond wrongly and to mishandle the challenges of marriage. Willingness to Contribute - non-selfish approach. Marriage is a team effort and so team players who will make a strong contribution will be the most valuable in a marriage. Openness and Transparency - free to be yourself and accept others. Interpersonal relationships, especially the intimate relationship of marriage, require people to be confidently open and unashamed. Courage and Confidence - unafraid to step out with God's help. Fearfulness eats people's confidence and messes with their lives. It is to be avoided in marriage. Willingness to be Wrong and Take Correction - teachable heart. Stubborn and argumentative people damage their marriage so teachableness and humility are vital qualities.
Note that the various ideas discussed in this article are found in my books, MARRIAGE HORIZONS and MENDING MARRIAGES. Those books are reviewed at rel=nofollow [http://www.familyhorizons.net]www.FamilyHorizons.Net.
SOME SEDUCTIVE IDEAS TO WATCH OUT FOR
Seductive ideas, or lies, often draw people away from blessing and into the terrible mess of selfish action. What seems to promise 'gains' are often quicksand and loss. Watch out for these seductive ideas, discussed in more detail in MENDING MARRIAGES.
"I married the WRONG person" - You've got to be kidding!
"I DESERVE better than this" - Do you really want what you deserve?
"SOMEONE ELSE would make me happier" - How incredibly selfish of you!
"EVEN GOD could not fix my marriage" - How dare you think so! Nothing is impossible to God.
"ADULTERY has ended this marriage" - That's ridiculous! Millions of marriages survive adultery!
"God just wants me to be HAPPY" - God wants you to be HOLY and that will bring happiness.
"MY SITUATION is unique" - Rubbish!
SUMMARY
God invented marriage and designed it to work as a blessing. The only way to have marriage work and to be blessed is to build a godly marriage the way God designed it. If you cheat on the design you rob yourself of effectiveness and blessing. Don't blame God for your marriage troubles if you have rejected His wisdom and design. Humble yourself and submit to God's instructions. Then He will be happy to give you His grace to meet your needs. Otherwise, you're on your own and you don't have a chance!
An international author and speaker, Dr Field has travelled five continents teaching about Marriage, Family, Parenting and Personal Success. He is founder of FAMILY HORIZONS, a Christian ministry providing resources for successful marriage and family. [http://www.familyhorizons.net]www.FamilyHorizons.Net
Dr Field makes complex topics easy to understand, practical and relevant. His books and messages are enjoyed around the world and have helped the healing of marriages and homes.
Based in Melbourne, Australia, he is married to Susan, and they have seven children and eight grandchildren. They have taught on family related issues for over 35 years and have proven their insights in their own family and in the many lives they have touched.
Dr Field enriches his readers with wisdom and insight. He has written the Horizon Series, on Family, Marriage and Parenting. He also wrote Mending Marriages and will soon release books on Manhood, Youth, Womanhood and Sexual issues.
Dr Field applies Biblical truth to today with amazing relevance. Contact [mailto:DrField@FamilyHorizons.net]DrField@FamilyHorizons.net
Article Source: [http://EzineArticles.com
Christian Marriage is the model from which western marriage is explained. The unique "one-flesh" relationship and family structure described by Jesus Christ and the early church writers create the godly marriage, where both husband and wife are able to resist the seduction of worldly ideas and destructive temptations.
As western culture forgets its roots, the wonder of marriage is lost. Cheap and shallow connections, involving exploitation, insecurity, betrayal and pain then become the norm. In order to reverse that, and rediscover godly marriage that works, we need to have marriage explained clearly, in terms of the Christian marriage, so the most effective relationships can be established. This will not just benefit the couple, but also their children and the society in which they live.
The following explanations about marriage and relationship come out of the various books I have written on subject, including Family Horizons, Marriage Horizons and Mending Marriages.
WHAT IS MARRIAGE?
In the secular community marriage is based on many different ideas, such as: Assigned Duties; Mutual Obligation; the 50:50 Partnership; It's a Man's World; the Idolised Woman; Something is Better than Nothing; Let's See if it Works; the Obligatory Duty and the Contract.
Christians can be confident about marriage and not be distracted by the ideas promoted in the popular culture, movies, press, music and television. The Bible reveals what true marriage is, from its invention in the Garden of Eden to its ultimate application in the marriage of Christ and the Church, at the end of the world.
Marriage has two main components: Relationship and Structure. Marriage is a relationship, but it is one that must be built on a God-ordained pattern, which gives it structure and enduring stability.
RELATIONSHIP IN TWO PARTS
Marriage is an interpersonal relationship between a man and a woman making a life-long commitment to each other. The quality of interpersonal relationship obviously impacts the way the couple relate, work together, solve problems and enjoy life together. But Marriage is also an "official" relationship, apart from the interpersonal fellowship of the couple.
When a couple join together in marriage God grants them a special "one-ness" that the Bible calls "one flesh". Jesus called this being "joined together" by God. Once a couple is given official "one flesh" status by God they can enjoy legitimate sexual intimacy. Such activity without the "one flesh" bond is immoral, as either fornication or adultery. Immoral behaviour damages those who engage in it. So the "official" relationship is incredibly important. Marital intimacy before marriage is immoral, since the couple do not yet have the official "one flesh" bond which God gives them when they become "man and wife".
God's "one flesh" bond is not created by the couple and cannot be dissolved by them. God establishes it and only He can dissolve it. Jesus taught; do not separate those "God has joined together". This is the divine "glue" which God uses to make two people into one unique physical entity.
A happy couple without the official "one flesh" relationship are not married. An unhappy couple with the official "one flesh" relationship are still married, even if they separate. So the most important relationship is not the sentimental secular one, but the official bond God establishes. If people understood its significance they would take marriage much more seriously than many do today.
CORRECT STRUCTURAL DESIGN
God prescribed the Structure for marriage, involving both Responsibility and Support. The husband is the one who must take responsibility for the marriage, wife and family. He is accountable to God. The wife is the one who must support the husband's leadership.
The man was designed to live under God's authority and fulfil God's will for his life. The wife was designed to empower the man and assist him to do that. The man, then, must love his wife and bless her for her commitment. The wife, then, must submit to the husband and energise his fulfilment of God's purposes.
These ideas seem old-fashioned in today's secularised culture. Yet, possibly to the surprise of today's generation, they have worked wonderfully well for millennia. The modern, progressive ideas, which abandon God's prescribed structure of responsibility and support, are far less satisfying, stable or effective as those which follow God's design.
SOME POINTERS TO MAKING MARRIAGE SUCCESSFUL
In preparing for marriage, or in making a marriage stronger, there are a number of things that will make an important contribution. If people do not have these qualities they will find it harder to make their marriage work. These issues are discussed in more detail in MARRIAGE HORIZONS.
Personal Wholeness - freedom from moral compromise and damage. Damaged people are unable to function as they should, especially in their marriage. Commitment - faithful in the face of difficulty. Weak people who cannot make and stand by faithful commitments will be a black hole in the marriage. Willingness to Forgive and Show Grace - not holding resentment or bad attitudes. It is essential that people learn how to forgive others, especially in the face to face, daily challenges or marriage. High Moral Standards - rejecting temptation. People with loose morals will betray their marriage and hurt their spouse, their family and themselves. Balanced Thinking - clear understanding of truth. Distorted ideas about reality, ourself or others cause people to respond wrongly and to mishandle the challenges of marriage. Willingness to Contribute - non-selfish approach. Marriage is a team effort and so team players who will make a strong contribution will be the most valuable in a marriage. Openness and Transparency - free to be yourself and accept others. Interpersonal relationships, especially the intimate relationship of marriage, require people to be confidently open and unashamed. Courage and Confidence - unafraid to step out with God's help. Fearfulness eats people's confidence and messes with their lives. It is to be avoided in marriage. Willingness to be Wrong and Take Correction - teachable heart. Stubborn and argumentative people damage their marriage so teachableness and humility are vital qualities.
Note that the various ideas discussed in this article are found in my books, MARRIAGE HORIZONS and MENDING MARRIAGES. Those books are reviewed at rel=nofollow [http://www.familyhorizons.net]www.FamilyHorizons.Net.
SOME SEDUCTIVE IDEAS TO WATCH OUT FOR
Seductive ideas, or lies, often draw people away from blessing and into the terrible mess of selfish action. What seems to promise 'gains' are often quicksand and loss. Watch out for these seductive ideas, discussed in more detail in MENDING MARRIAGES.
"I married the WRONG person" - You've got to be kidding!
"I DESERVE better than this" - Do you really want what you deserve?
"SOMEONE ELSE would make me happier" - How incredibly selfish of you!
"EVEN GOD could not fix my marriage" - How dare you think so! Nothing is impossible to God.
"ADULTERY has ended this marriage" - That's ridiculous! Millions of marriages survive adultery!
"God just wants me to be HAPPY" - God wants you to be HOLY and that will bring happiness.
"MY SITUATION is unique" - Rubbish!
SUMMARY
God invented marriage and designed it to work as a blessing. The only way to have marriage work and to be blessed is to build a godly marriage the way God designed it. If you cheat on the design you rob yourself of effectiveness and blessing. Don't blame God for your marriage troubles if you have rejected His wisdom and design. Humble yourself and submit to God's instructions. Then He will be happy to give you His grace to meet your needs. Otherwise, you're on your own and you don't have a chance!
An international author and speaker, Dr Field has travelled five continents teaching about Marriage, Family, Parenting and Personal Success. He is founder of FAMILY HORIZONS, a Christian ministry providing resources for successful marriage and family. [http://www.familyhorizons.net]www.FamilyHorizons.Net
Dr Field makes complex topics easy to understand, practical and relevant. His books and messages are enjoyed around the world and have helped the healing of marriages and homes.
Based in Melbourne, Australia, he is married to Susan, and they have seven children and eight grandchildren. They have taught on family related issues for over 35 years and have proven their insights in their own family and in the many lives they have touched.
Dr Field enriches his readers with wisdom and insight. He has written the Horizon Series, on Family, Marriage and Parenting. He also wrote Mending Marriages and will soon release books on Manhood, Youth, Womanhood and Sexual issues.
Dr Field applies Biblical truth to today with amazing relevance. Contact [mailto:DrField@FamilyHorizons.net]DrField@FamilyHorizons.net
Article Source: [http://EzineArticles.com
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